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Ever thought like just giving up and packing it all in? Wait! Hold that thought…

Try This!

We’ve all been there at some point, right? That place where you’re always working hard, you’re super busy but just not getting the results you want. Perhaps you’ve been building your business for what feels like forever, doing all the right things, putting in the hours but just not achieving the success you want…the success you KNOW you are more than capable of achieving. 

I see you!

It’s frustrating when you still have the passion for what you do but when it’s not working how you want it to and you feel tired, stuck, and just don’t know what to do next it can feel hopeless. Decision making becomes hard …our brains go into survival mode and want to keep us safe, so to avoid further angst, our thoughts turn negative, and we convince ourselves that it would be good to just pack it all in and do something else.

But there is a way to get back into the driving seat and boost up the motivation. Rather than keep plugging away in the same way, doing the same things, and potentially heading for a burnout, try this 

Do a start over!

Wiping the slate clean and starting over can be a game changer and its repeatable. Success isn’t a linear path, learning as you go, tweaking and re-thinking is all part of the journey.

Done in the right way, a start over will flood your brain with a wonderful new motivation to take confident action in a different way, allowing you to step back  and look at what’s really going on. It’s a chance to lose bad habits, strategies that aren’t working, release toxic thoughts and raises excitement over a new challenge. Shed the old way of thinking and doing and bring in the new!

You see the thing is, you’re not starting over from scratch. You are starting over with experience and more knowledge than before. And THAT IS an advantage. 

Maybe it’s time to make the most of what you know best…YOU!

Oh, and that word “failure”? Let’s throw that out too if that feels big to you. Failures are merely lessons that you needed to receive to move forward. 

So, how do you start over?

I’ve studied this and have had thousands of start overs in all areas of my life (it’s easy to say that when you are 52) so I know this works and have proven it works for others too! So, I set about simplifying it, formulating it so you get to discover the power of a start over fast.

You can start this right now…grab a pen and paper, find somewhere quiet (it can be done!) so you can hear your thoughts and let’s get you started.

My start-over method has 3 phases: Sort, Shape and shift!

1. Sort

Before you can make any changes it’s important to understand where you are starting from. Be kind to yourself, this isn’t a time to berate yourself for all the things that you could have done differently, this is a time to evaluate your current situation objectively. Be honest with what comes up, remember this is just for you to work with.  

So, get ready for a good sort out. What’s is or isn’t working well? How are you feeling? What are the things you’ve learnt so far? What’s important to you? Just let whatever wants to come out flow out on to the page. Getting it out of your head and seeing it on a page can really free up some much-needed head space.

2. Shape

Now for shaping the vision of where you want to be, for example, “I want a business doing what I love that brings me a regular income of £5k per month”. This may be exactly the same as before or you may have adjusted it but make sure you’re really aiming for what you want next. So…What do you want to achieve? What does success look like to you? When do you want to achieve it. Let your imagination be free to explore. How do you want to feel when you get there? Have fun here, let the excitement run through you and really try to visualise it all.

3. Shift

Now you are clearer on where you are right now and where you want to be, it’s time to look at how you are going to get there. Look only for the positives here. Go over what you’ve written so far…where are the gaps? What’s are the biggest changes needed? What can you do differently this time? What resources or support do you need? And my favourite…who do YOU need to be to make it all happen?

Gaining clarity through this method only comes after giving yourself time to think, to trust in yourself, your knowledge and experience so far. You get to let out YOUR thoughts, ideas and needs, everything you need is inside of you. If you can imagine it, you can do it!

Now you can begin to plan, now you can start-over, and the fun bit is that no-one else needs to know the shifts that are happening inside you, your successes will show for themselves.

It’s never too late to make a change and it’s never too early to start-over.

Sara Burton is The Start Over Coach helping driven individuals re-evaluate, re-define and re-energise their goals, next chapter and desires in life and business after something has changed them forever and they’re ready to start over. Creator and host of The Start Over Podcast.